I literally get a physical reaction to this photo when I view it. Just from looking at it! So, I don't need to tell you that I have a fear of heights. I can't even fathom the type of person who would even do this type of work!? What's wrong with them!?
Looking at our fears
Let's face it, we all have fears to some degree or another. Now I'm no psychologist, but I know from experience that fear can be a big roadblock in my life. It can keep me from doing this or that or even moving ahead in my career.
I think it's really important that you don't run from your fears, but face them head-on and look at them. Understand where your fears lie and address them. Some fears are basically irrational, but you've let them control you for so long. Others have a rational belief behind them but need addressing or even professional help.
Labeling your fears and understanding why they exist can free you from unnecessary bondage.
Money and fear
I truly believe that fear plays a large role in many of our lives as it pertains to money. Many are driven to make more and more money because they fear never having enough. While others fall deeper and deeper in debt because they are afraid of dealing with money.
Personally, I was so afraid of what others might think of me if they knew how deeply in debt I was. I didn't reach out for help until I was $40k in the hole and in dispair.
It's no doubt that fear can hold us down. But it can also become a motivator. If we fear the loss of income or not being able to provide for our family – it could lead us to get another job. That's not a bad thing.
But, it can be troubling when that money fear prevails over your life. When it is the only thing driving your existence and ruling your every move.
Tackling your fear
Addressing and finding the basis for your money fears can really help to get your financial house in order. If you know the why behind some of your actions and reactions, I think you will be make large progress in prospering in your finances.
To help you get started in tackling your money fears, I have a few suggestions:
- Get with your significant other or family member you can trust and discuss where you are in your finances and what might be holding you back. Talk about your individual fears as they relate to money. What are you most afraid of?
- Write these down on paper.
- You may come to discover that some of these fears uncover a whole nother layer of deeply personal issues that may require professional advice and guidance. This could be very beneficial to you. Seek it out.
- Discuss ways that you and your trusted person can help one another to tackle each others fears and/or call each other out when the fear might be taking over your finances.
Being aware of your fears and tackling them can be a hard growing experience. Make room for mistakes along the way – but also be prepared for great things to transpire as you are addressing some very core issues in how you relate to money.
So, what are you afraid of?