When Rick and I were young and first married, we had a bit of a “que’ sera, sera” attitude about our finances. There was stuff we wanted, like a house, cars, clothes and vacations. When we didn’t have the cash to pay for these things, we would simply borrow for them. Our attitude was, “After all, we can afford the payments, and our income will only increase from here.”
The problem with this line of thinking is that nobody knows who their future self will be. I never thought that I’d want to be home full-time with our kids. After all, I had a great part-time job in the mortgage industry that paid terrific money and allowed me to work from home a lot. I thought I’d always work there. The problem was that I didn’t know that my future self would be laid off from that job due to a declining economy, and I didn’t know that my future self and my husband’s future self would feel so strongly about me being home with the kids, as opposed to taking another job, which would have forced me to work full-time, outside of the home, to earn half of what I was making at my other part-time job, but that’s what happened.
Another thing I didn’t know about our future selves is that we would one day get sick and tired of the rat race and suburbia living, and desire a home in the country, and a slower-paced life. We didn’t know that we’d want Rick to retire early, and that we’d desire to travel a bit.
If we had been responsible with our finances from the beginning, these changes would’ve been a piece of cake for us from a financial standpoint. In the early years of our marriage, we were making good money, and had comparatively minimal expenses; however, instead of being frugal and saving, we chose the “You only live once” lifestyle. This attitude hindered our ability to follow the dreams of our future selves. We now find ourselves back peddling real quick to undo the financial damage we did during the first 17 years of our marriage, in order to make the next decades of our marriage more in line with what we want.
- If you’re young and newly starting out, consider your future self. Don’t assume that you’ll want the same things in your 30’s, 40’s and 50’s that you do now. Instead, commit to staying out of large amounts of debt, and commit to saving at least 5-10% of your income, no matter what. These strategies will give you some financial cushion to handle the desires of your future self.
- If you’ve already borrowed against your future self, make a plan today to learn about budgeting, spend-tracking, saving and investing, and commit whole-heartedly to turning your financial ship around and making today’s dreams happen sooner rather than later.
Borrowing against your future self is almost always a bad idea. You never know what your life or the economy will bring down the road, so do your best to have a secure financial foundation in place, so that you can be prepared to chase the dreams of your future self, whatever they may be.